Productive

We’ve had a busy month already. Allow me to show you what we’ve accomplished.

Before and after

Before and after

The Romgi refinished the ugly nightstands that were here when we moved in. He also gave them new handles, which they desperately needed. Don’t you think it looks nice?

The answer is yes, they look nice.

The answer is yes, they look nice.

Then we got some delicious honeycrisp apples from Allred Orchards and had to make more cup pies. What a trial!

Ready to bake.

Ready to bake.

Ready to eat!

Ready to eat!

And today, I made a fun thing that I have no idea what to do with. It would be a cool way to give a gift, if your gift was…huh. Still dunno. Suggestions?

Outside

Outside

Inside

Inside

It’s a small box of drawers. Little drawers. It’s 3 in x 3 in x 4 in. And adorable. I found the paper today at Robert’s and had to get a couple sheets.

I also rearranged our bedroom furniture last week, and decided to paint the room. It’s overwhelmingly tan. Bleh.

So that’s what we’ve been up to lately!

P.S. I know it took me a while, but this is my official 500th post!

We’re still here!

I know I haven’t posted anything real in a while – I have at least 5 book reviews to write and between taking care of the Bwun and finishing up a class, nothing interesting has made it onto my blog (or even anything boring, I suppose).

To make up for it, here’s a video of the Bwun from the other night. Lately he’s started crawling up to me and saying “mememem!” which I think is as adorably close to Ma as we’re going to get for now.

The Red Tent

by Anita Diamantredtent
{ 1997 | St. Martin’s Press | 336 pgs }

I feel the need to preface my remarks by saying that I am extraordinarily easily influenced by others’ opinions when it comes to books and movies, which is why, ironically, I avoid reading reviews beforehand. My cousin let me borrow this book, saying merely that it “was well written” and that she “had strong feelings about it.” Of course, I interpreted that as a negative commentary. Being aware of my tendencies,  I tried to counteract the pull to think of the book in negative terms.

Alright. Shall we begin with a summary?

The Red Tent is, according to the author, an attempt at Midrash, or filling in the gaps in Biblical narrative to aid in the understanding of the story. Diamant’s work is told from the point of view of Dinah, Jacob’s daughter who is mentioned only briefly in Genesis 34, where she is defiled by the prince of Shechem and her brothers take revenge on the city. This becomes the central event in The Red Tent and is preceded by narrative both about Leah & Rachel and Dinah’s history, and followed by an imaginative account of what happened to Dinah after Genesis 34. There is a great deal of emphasis on the relationships between the women in Jacob’s family; the title comes from the red tent to which the women retired for 3 days during the new moon/menstruation cycle.

And my thoughts:

What on earth is Diamant’s deep-seated hatred toward the Jewish patriarchs? She has virtually nothing good to say about Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, and makes Joseph into an arrogant, self-important man during his rule in Egypt. The women in the story are consistently bitter towards the men, as well as condescending (in their gossip in the red tent, not directly). While Diamant certainly knows how to tell a story, she seems to be attempting to convince her reader that the Jewish heroes are actually horrible people. Dinah is full of hatred towards them and is portrayed as a strong and noble woman (like her mothers, Jacob’s wives), a stark contrast to the men in the story. Only four men are shown any respect: Dinah’s two lovers; Reuben; and Judah.

Diamant’s retelling changes a major detail. The rape of Dinah becomes Dinah’s consensual relationship with the prince, and the acts of her family are then cruel, vindictive, and motivated by Simeon and Levi’s violent, angry temperaments. Jacob changes his name to Israel out of shame, because people speak of the deeds of Jacob as evil. There is no sense of family unity or togetherness in the entire book except for when the women come together in the red tent. Maybe that was the author’s point, but it wasn’t believable.

It was interesting to read this on the heels of The Da Vinci Code (bleh), where the female divine is such a focal point. The women of The Red Tent are very much in tune with the earth, the seasons, and the supreme female goddess, to the point of having bizarre – really bizarre – rituals regarding menstruation. I’m not sure where Diamant got such ideas, but I was better off before I read them.

As I said, I really did try to counteract the negativity I felt towards the book. But despite the creative storytelling, I was disappointed with Dinah’s lack of maturity throughout the book. She describes her life from birth to death, but seems to mature only physically and never emotionally or mentally. At the end she was just as petty and critical of others as she was in the beginning. Her voice makes it clear that in her eyes, she alone is blameless. She hates Jacob for disowning Reuben (who slept with Rachel’s handmaid, Bilhah) and Judah (who, although the story does not mention it, slept with his daughter-in-law). Dinah is adamant that Reuben and Bilhah shared a true love and should not have been punished for their passion.

Maybe that’s what was most irritating about The Red Tent – despite being an attempt to portray how women lived during Biblical times, Diamant doesn’t care about the social constraints and rules of the period. Even if Dinah willingly went to the prince of Shechem, doing so before an official marriage would be considered immoral. I’m shocked that Dinah’s narration does not acknowledge this at all, and that it excuses Reuben’s act on the grounds of love. This is simply too modern an interpretation.

Also, I really hate the cover art. It’s hideously ugly.

I think that’s about all I have to say. Now that I’ve given you my negative view, why don’t you read The Red Tent and tell me what you think?

Fingers crossed

A few weeks ago, I was driving back from the grocery store and suddenly felt like I should return to school as soon as possible to finish my degree. I only have 2 semesters’ worth of classes left, and I’ve had vague plans to finish sometime in the 3 years that the Romgi is in law school here. So when I got home I looked at the classes I need, when they’re offered, what the deadlines for applying are…I had exactly 3 weeks to submit my application to BYU. I got the last paperwork turned in yesterday, which means -

with any luck -

this January I’ll be back on campus. I plan to do 3 sociology classes; my cousin and I have tentatively set up a babysitting swap, so she’ll watch the Bwun for an hour every afternoon, and once a week the Romgi will take him while I’m in an evening class.

I will be completing my general education requirements through Independent Study (retake a test? Why yes, thank you, I will) and doing my final 3 sociology classes next fall. And December 2010: done! And I can walk the following April. It’s really worked out amazingly well, especially considering how last-minute the decision was. I’m nervous, since I haven’t taken classes on campus in a while, but I love the classes I have lined up (assuming I get readmitted to BYU): Crime, Justice, & Corrections; Understanding Modern Societies; and Self and Society (taught by my favorite teacher).

I should hear back by the end of October, if not sooner. But – just a few classes stand between me and a degree! Wish me luck!

The Da Vinci Code

by Dan Browndavinci
{ 2003 | Doubleday | 454 pgs }

The other night I spent 5 hours reading The Da Vinci Code for part of the Countdown Challenge I didn’t finish on time. Here is a partial list of other things I could have done instead:

  • slept
  • baked, decorated, and eaten a cake
  • sifted through the neighbors’ trash
  • composed a sonnet
  • unraveled the blanket I’ve been crocheting
  • made a paper mache house out of 454 pages of…some book
  • completed my giant crossword
  • crashed pots to make the Bwun wake up
  • listen to the Bwun scream for 5 hours
  • read the remaining 8 chapters of my Social Psychology book
  • done a headstand
  • walked on hot coals…in the backyard?
  • hiked the Y alone at night
  • scrubbed the bathroom floor
  • caught up on the Romgi’s law school reading
  • counted the perforations in our ugly laminate wall
  • memorized pi to 100 digits
  • hitchhiked to St. George
  • played Wind Waker through again -

- ok, that was heartbreaking. Yes, it’s true, rather than play my favorite game I voluntarily read The Da Vinci Code in its entirety.

My apologies to Nintendo. It’s a sin I won’t commit again.

Product Review: AD Sutton Diaper Bag

I confess: I assume a lot about a mother by the diaper bag she carries. So it wasn’t long after I found out I was pregnant that I started looking for a diaper bag that would communicate everything a person needed to know about me. Stylish (right?), a little quirky (maybe a lot), determined (how does a diaper bag say that?), and above all not polyester from the hospital. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to get a gender-specific bag, so I waited to fall in love with a bag until I knew whether we’d be having a boy or a girl. Then I launched myself whole-heartedly into finding a barrage of products that would tell the world about me (and the baby, of course…). But it was frustrating. Most diaper bags fell into two disappointing categories: (1) too cutesy and (2) too pricey. Sometime around Thanksgiving, I found it. It was perfect. Behold, the AD Sutton & Sons Herringbone Diaper Bag in black. diaperbagI hope you agree that this is a pretty spiffy-looking diaper bag. It easily looks like a large purse instead of a diaper bag; besides, it’s serious enough that I can take it anywhere and feel like it won’t clash with my outfit and won’t make people wonder about my taste.

Details:

The specifications on Amazon said the bag measured 6 x 13 x 10 inches. My informal compare-to-a-piece-of-paper measurements came out closer to 6 x 14 x 12 inches. I’m not very good at visualizing dimensions, so let me just say that the diaper bag is spacious. It’s about the size of the large totes that are popular right now, only it looks way better. Obviously.

There are two handles on the top that make it easy to carry as a shoulder bag. One review on Amazon says the straps are impossible to get over your arms. That person must have the most massive arms in the universe, because it’s comfortable for both me and the Romgi to toss over one shoulder and still carry the Bwun. The handles are sturdy and have held up to everything I’ve stuffed in the diaper bag so far.

On the front is a large pocket with a single magnetic clasp. It isn’t very wide; it’s where I keep papers I need with me, my keys, and my sunglasses – the things I want to be able to grab quickly without digging through the whole bag. I also put random items like spare pacifiers, a tiny music box, my phone charger…so while it isn’t a wide pocket, it can definitely hold a lot.

Each side has a pocket. My cell phone goes in one – the side closest to me, so I can answer the phone if it rings while I’m out. Very easy to reach. My iPod usually goes in the other side, but sometimes I’ll put a bottle or a small camera. These side pockets are quite accessible and perfect for gadgets.

Now, the inside. There are 3 large open pockets (each roughly the size of the outside side pockets), a zippered pocket of equal size, a mesh pocket on each side (where the outside side pockets are), and 3 elastic straps that I imagine could secure bottles. The rest of the interior is empty for whatever I can think to toss in. In fact, I guess the measurements of the inside are probably 6 x 13 x 10 inches. That makes more sense. Ah. And honestly, that’s a lot of room.

What usually goes into my diaper bag – interior only:

I’ve also been known to add in a church lesson manual, scriptures, notebooks, books, a large camera, makeup, candy, shoes for the Bwun…while I doubt all of those would fit at once, this diaper bag is plenty big without being overwhelming.

I love my diaper bag. I couldn’t be happier with the style, the build, or the capacity. I bought it from Amazon for $29.99 just after Christmas; it isn’t currently available through them, but you can order one from Go Daddy Marketplace for $49.99.

Deconstructing Sammy

by Matt Birkbecksammy
{ 2009 | Harper Paperbacks | 304 pgs }

Summary: Despite earning millions as an entertainer, Sammy Davis Jr. was heavily in debt by the time he died in 1990 and his estate was declared insolvent by the IRS. His widow, Altovise, rapidly deteriorates and is broke when she meets Albert “Sonny” Murray Jr., a former federal prosecutor. He agrees to try settling the debt with the IRS, thereby restoring rights to use the name and likeness of Sammy Davis Jr. and bringing money back into the family.

Sonny’s job is not easy, however, as he learns over the course of four years that Sammy had no sound financial plans and lived extravagantly, without thought for the future. Finding the necessary legal documents proves difficult as Sammy’s former associates and employees are hostile toward Sonny’s investigation. Altovise was not well-liked, and Sonny must deal with negative emotions both toward her and from her. A severe alcohol addiction means Altovise spends time in rehab, which incurs further debt and makes her difficult to work with.

Eventually, Sonny makes a deal with the IRS – Sammy’s estate must pay $360,000 in taxes, mere pennies compared to the $7 million owed. Finding the money is difficult, since it is nearly impossible to determine what music Sammy actually owned, what royalties are due, and so on. With a substantial personal loan from Piaget to Altovise, Sonny is able to pay the debt in several installments. A box set of Sammy’s music is released by Rhino. Things are looking up – until Altovise unexpectedly terminates her business relationship with Sonny, without paying him the $800,000+ in legal fees Altovise has incurred.

In the end, Altovise remains tied to shady business partners who cannot (or will not) bring Sammy’s estate back to the glamour it deserves.

My opinion: This was a fascinating subject for me. I knew almost nothing about Sammy Davis Jr., and it was interesting to learn how he gained and lost several fortunes. The legal battles seemed endless, and though I assumed (because here in my hands was a book about Sammy) that the estate was restored, I wondered if Sonny’s case would be successful.

Birkbeck is a talented author who skillfully narrates a complicated story. However, at times his writing becomes repetitive, taking on the tone of a high school research paper. My other complaint is that Birkbeck has apparently done so much research that he can’t bear to leave any details out of the book. For instance, in describing Sonny’s efforts to obtain some of Sammy’s possessions, Birkbeck mentions the host of Ripley’s Believe it Or Not and his wild behavior. “During a taping in China, [the host] was tossed out of the country after relieving himself on the Great Wall” (107). A humorous anecdote, but completely irrelevant to the actual narrative.

As a whole, Deconstructing Sammy makes an interesting journey for the reader – intertwining flashbacks from Sammy and Sonny with the quest to settle the IRS debt. I recommend it to those interested in biographies, entertainment, and complicated estate problems.

Aloha Friday #6

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Initially created by An Island Life, Aloha Friday is where I ask a simple question and we all answer. Just taking things easy, see?

I had lunch and dinner menus planned out for the whole month, but there was one dish I dreaded making. I like it every once in a while; my husband loves it and I seldom cook it. Too much work and not enough return. So…

If there’s a dish your spouse/family loves but you aren’t wild about (or even dislike), do you make it anyway?

It seems nice to cook it every once in a while, but this week just didn’t work out. I got grouchy about making it and the Romgi took pity on me. Maybe I’ll scale it back to one or two servings and make him an individual dinner!

(Just a note, if you’re on my homepage, the link to post a comment is at the TOP of this post. The one below is for the previous post.)

Winner: Sabriel by Garth Nix

There were 22 total entries to this giveaway. And the winner is…drumroll please…

randomComment #5, Nicole, who said one of her favorite books is Travels with Charley by John Steinbeck. Congratulations, Nicole! I’ll be emailing you and need to hear back by Saturday, September 19 or a new winner will be drawn.

To those of you who didn’t win, you can buy a copy of Sabriel from the Harper Teen website for $9.99.

And come back, because I’ll also be doing a book giveaway for Thanksgiving! I’m always thankful for books.

Congratulations again, Nicole, and happy (almost) 500 posts to me! {If you’re curious, this is post #492.)

The Romgi: Frenemy?

I read Graceling by Kristin Cashore last night – I’ll post a review soon, but in the meantime I wanted to rant a little bit about something the main character expressed in the book…

Does the majority of society view marriage as confining, restricting, and a hinderance to one’s independence? Do they see marriage as a fundamental change to one’s nature, for the worse? Is it a loss of a woman’s identity?

I won’t pretend that there are no sacrifices involved in marriage, and certainly on a basic level we give up a certain type of relationship with others and commit to our spouse. But I wouldn’t call marriage a cage. I don’t feel trapped. It’s an immense comfort to be so inextricably linked with my best friend, to know that we are each a top priority to the other. If I have changed, it’s for the better. Spouses uplift and edify each other, working together to improve. To me, it’s a beautiful partnership, one that is definitely worth any freedoms I might have had to give up (though honestly, I don’t feel like I have given much up).

I think the Romgi and I have together expanded, expounded upon, and refined my identity. I don’t feel a sense of loss for who I once was, or that I said goodbye to anything fundamental about me. Instead, I am more myself now than I was before – a better self, as I said. I think marriage makes us more than the sum of our parts. We’re better people as spouses than as individuals. The Romgi is not my enemy for taking away my identity. He’s my best friend and has completed me (awww, sappy).

And now I’m done ranting, because the Bwun is tearing a napkin to shreds. Feel free to share your thoughts – and don’t hesistate to disagree with me; I want to hear what you think.